Since I last spoke to you, we have celebrated Christmas, which for many was safe but not energising or as fulfilling as we would of wanted after a tough year.  We all went through the New Year’s Eve process, which for many was a relief to kick the Year 2020 out the house but did anything change on 1st January 2021?  We are still living with the enormity of being locked in, not seeing loved ones or extended families, friends and our work colleagues, the weight and the reality of limited physical contact being carried daily.

I don’t know if you are thinking the same but I have noticed an overwhelming surge in top tips, how to get better at baking, PE master classes, how to stay motivated, how to relax, how to home school, how to walk the dog, the list seems endless on social media and the pressure to follow also feels relentless.   I decided within my blog for SYLO to reflect the enormity of questions which are being raised by our clients, about themselves and their teams, within counselling sessions right now and thought it may help others who are wondering: “what is everyone else thinking or saying?”;

  • Am I ok to feel like this?
  • How can I tell if I am ok?Take care of yourself
  • What if I’m not ok?
  • What happens if I feel happy and no one else does, can I still smile?
  • Is it ok to dislike home schooling my children?
  • Will lockdown ever end?
  • Is this my life now?
  • Is it ok to tell people I don’t feel lucky?
  • Is it ok to miss my parents and tell them without upsetting them?
  • Is it ok to not like my family or partner?
  • Is it ok to cry?
  • Is it ok to tell my employer how I’m feeling or thinking?
  • Can I sit on the sofa and put my feet up without feeling guilty?
  • Is it ok to feel trapped and why do I feel trapped?
  • Why is my teenager so grumpy?
  • Am I drinking too much?
  • I feel really angry with everyone, is that ok?

How many of the questions can you resonate with? I am very certain, you will have more of your own questions to add.  There is no right or wrong way to think or feel, we are all feeling overwhelmed by the enormity of the continuing process of COVID-19 .  We feel the control of lockdown, day after day and living with the prospect of only small changes over the coming weeks.  Over the coming months, our families still need to function daily within different and at times, complex working structures.  We need to earn money to pay the bills, relationships feeling strained or breaking around us, home working becoming harder to manage and contain, still worrying about our parents, carers and many people who are alone, the lethargy of the same routines, they are just a few of the areas which we are feeling the most pressure.

Acknowledgement of whealthhat you are thinking and feeling is key to processing some of the emotions, it is OK to feel sad, happy or angry.  Show you care by supporting each other, sharing a cuppa whilst catching up online, picking up the phone to a friend or loved one, hugging a grumpy child.  All of those actions can help but so can some time on your own, space to feel, space to think, space to breathe and space for your own selfcare.  Be kind to yourself, change is coming and we will need to be mentally ready to embrace a new normal.

Remember to give yourself permission, in a blog just before Christmas, I stated ‘to understand yourself doesn’t mean you’re selfish, it’s the care that’s required to support your own well-being and others around you’. Selfcare starts with you, you have my permission to be brave and start sharing how you feel and think right now.

Blog written by Clare Sandman – Placement Psychotherapist for SYLO

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